Enjoy Yourself (It’s later than you think)
The other night we went to a wedding and met up with some of my wife’s old school friends that we haven’t seen for quite some time. There was lots of reminiscing as well as some sad news. It seems that a few of their public and high school chums, or their spouses, have recently passed away. They were all about our age (late 50s to early 60s) and they died from a variety of causes.
This news gave us pause to consider our fortunate good-health and the fact that we really haven’t been to too many funerals lately. It also reminded me of the song Enjoy Yourself. This little ditty was recorded by Guy Lombardo and his Royal Canadians when I was just 4 years old. Of course I heard it many times as Mom and Dad liked Guy Lombardo and had a number of his albums. And almost 60 years later, the message is still as relevant as it was then, even if the sexism isn’t.
You have to live for today, but you can’t ignore your future. And preparing for your future comes in three parts: Financial, Physical and Emotional as I’ve discussed in my book and on this blog.
The moral of this posting is that you better Enjoy Yourself right now because it really is later than you think. Do you doubt it? Try this little experiment. Now I know this may sound a bit grim or morbid, but read the obituaries in your local paper for a week making note of everyone listed who is your age or younger than you. After a week of this, do you still doubt?
But let me stress that while enjoying yourself today, you still need to plan for tomorrow because I hope you are one of the lucky ones who gets to attend many, many funerals, if you catch my drift.
He thought he was ready, but after 9 months he realized retirement just wasn’t for him.
A former work colleague of mine had been a self-employed consultant for many, many years, and when his latest contract finished last year, and with nothing on the horizon, he said to himself:
“Yes, now’s the time; After more than 20 years of travelling all over the world for my clients, it’s time to hang up my carry-on luggage and settle down and enjoy life.”
That lasted for a few months then it struck him. During those intensely busy consulting years, he hadn’t developed any external interests or a social network in his hometown, and he was finding he just didn’t know what to do with his days or how to keep mentally stimulated. Yes he was Financially and Physically Fit to retire but was he Emotionally Fit? Absolutely not. A possible solution for him came when a fellow contractor asked him to commit to a long-term gig in a town not far from his home, with an expected completion date at the end of 2017. So, my retired friend put his retirement on the shelf, as working was better than retirement.
And then it happened. My wife and I were visiting him a couple of weeks ago and over dinner I gave him a copy of my book, Retire Fit, Fit & Fit. The very next day he emailed me to say that he spent most of the rest of the evening reading my book, and he loved it. The chapter on Emotionally Fit especially made him realize there are lots of things he could be doing and wanted to be doing other than working. He dusted off his bicycle and did a ride, he remembered how much he loved a specific sport in university, and realized that he really was ready to start recording the fascinating history of his family. He plans to work out the rest of his contract but then, look out world, he’s retired with a full and active life ahead of him.
His experience isn’t unusual. While many people may be ready to stop working and may be Financially Fit to do so, they haven’t yet determined “who” they will be and how they will motivate themselves. Ideally, you will plan in advance and get ready for this before retirement, but if not, be kind to yourself and use those first few months of retirement to recover from your work life and plan for the enjoyment of your retirement life.